While a lot of women love the idea of being a grandma, there are some that don’t actually like being called grandma. Well, one woman’s suggestion for an alternate name is causing some major drama with one family.
A woman recently shared on Reddit’s “Am I The A-hole” forum that she is pregnant with her ex’s child, and she’s having some major issues with his mother. The couple has been on and off for about three years, but they are currently getting along and have been pretty much on the page about their child, until his mother came along.
First, the woman questioned whether the OP’s daughter is even her son’s. Then she claimed she was going to take the child and raise her, which, of course, the OP put her foot down about. But it didn’t end there. She then insisted she wanted the child to call her “Mami,” and as you can imagine that didn’t sit well with the OP.
“I said politely no that I’m not comfortable with that it is essentially the same thing as Mommy/Mom,” the OP writes, noting that at first the ex’s mom was fine with that, but then brought it up again, and the OP’s ex told her it wasn’t okay. But recently the ex said his mom was excited for the baby, and added “the baby will probably call her mom.”
The OP insisted that’s not going to happen, especially since the OP will be raising the baby 90% of the time, and the ex’s mom won’t be around her that much. “She’s p***ed at me for calling her out on it and putting my foot down firmly but AITA?,” the OP asks. “Am I just being influenced/enraged by my pregnancy hormones? Or is it not okay especially if I’ve told her multiple times before no I’m not comfortable with that?”
Of course, most people online had the OP’s back.
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- “NTA, but be smart,” one person shared. “Document every instance like this so in the event that she tries to take the child from you, you have proof with dates that she has been acting like this from the start.”
- “NTA. Get a lawyer and get the custody agreement written out and signed by all parties,” another adds. “Make sure MIL’s involvement levels are spelled out in the agreement.”
- Finally, another noted, “NTA- she’s trying to play mum and possibly take your baby don’t let this woman anywhere near your baby.”
Source: The Mirror
